Rene Girard discovered something new, new but very old, about human behavior-- a model for human behavior that he saw operating in society at a very deep level, in large social groups as well as small ones. He called this behavior mimesis. Most people live mimetic lives patterned on what they see around them. They want what others want (thin desires) and never try to identify what their own deep desires (thick desires) might be.
I understand what you are saying, I don’t know how to make people listen.
Neither do I.